Do you ever rent an adult movie and wonder what the actress
is really like? Do you ever call a phone sex line and wish you could
meet the lady on the other end of the phone? Have you viewed adult
web sites and questioned if the lady in the pictures is really as crazy
as she portrays?
Have you ever visited an escort and wish you could see how she balances
a life of erotic play and family? Well now you can. Hi, my name is
Julie Wild and I am a sex, love and intimacy coach in Atlanta Georgia.
I am an active swinger and write a weekly column on relationships and
sexuality. I will be hosting a new live talk show, " The Julie
Show" starting this spring.
I am sure you have read on the web about housewives that offer pictures
of themselves having sex with neighbors, friends and strangers. Many
have on-line diaries and blogs. Do you ask yourself, is this possible,
are there women out there that have a craving for sex ? Do they really
have sex almost every day, sometimes several times a day?
Then you must wonder, are there married ladies who enjoy having sex
with strangers? With more than one man at the same time? How about
group sex, are there really married ladies who are into group sex?
I think the answer might surprise you.
I have friends who are happily married, who enjoy the love and bond
they share with their husband, but also enjoy sex with friends and
even strangers. It happens every day, swing clubs are full of couples
sharing their sexuality with others. So next time you meet a couple,
you might want to think again if you believe all married couples lead
monogamous relationships.
Would you like to know a little more about me? Well I am 40 years old,
happily married, stay at home mom. Many years ago my husband realized
that I love sex and had an interest in meeting other people to explore
my sexuality. Like so many other couples, we were not sure where to
start.
We had purchased videos, magazines and even swinger directories. Our
first few attempts to find couples or singles who shared our interest
was less than successful. I had several erotic evenings back in high
school, but this was different, this was a married couple looking to
bring others into our bedroom.
I quickly learned that their is an art to swinging. You can't really
go up to your co-worker and ask if they want to come home and join
you and your husband in a threesome. Imagine the look on my husbands
co-workers if he asked one of them to stop by and play with his wife.
So we visited a few swing clubs and parties. When we first decided
to try swinging, there were more home parties than clubs. We learned
proper etiquette to the lifestyle. Soon we were going to swing clubs
and parties almost every weekend.
Sometimes we would just dance and watch the other couples, other times
I would find a willing female to play. Other times I would meet a single
guy to bring back to meet my husband for a threesome and other times,
we would meet a couple to play with.
For many years, this was our weekend enjoyment. Soon you find you build
friendships with couples that shared this same sexual philosophy.
As my family depended on me less and less, I found myself with time
on my hands during the week. My husband was off working, my children
in school and I was at home alone. As a coach, I started offering phone
sessions during the day, from my home.
This was exciting and fun. It provided me with some extra spending
money and I was able to feel sexy all day long. I had a little routine,
I would make sure my family was on the way out the door, then I would
put on a sexy outfit, usually a lace bra and panties and check my e
mails. Soon I would have men and women from all over requesting a phone
session.
I would take my portable phone, crawl back in bed and wait for my phone
to ring. As the guy on the phone started to talk to me, I would slowly
start to masturbate. I would close my eyes and really get into the
mood. The more he would tell me how much he would like to play with
me, the hornier I would get. Soon I was so wet, I would pull my panties
off and start to masturbate with my battery operated vibrator.
I would finish the call and usually need to orgasm one more time. These
calls usually get me so hot. Then a few men started asking if their
was some way to meet me. Phone sex is great, but they wanted to talk
to me about their sexuality, in person. The idea alone drove me wild.
Imagine a man sitting in my office talking to me face to face about
his sexual fantasies.
One day I was visiting a girlfriend who is a web girl. You know, an
amateur adult star. She has a web site and offers cam shows. She and
I were talking about the adult amateur web business. She meets men,
she photographs the two of them and then markets the pictures. Usually
by charging a monthly membership fee where members can see her and
another man enjoying themselves.
This did not seem exciting to me. You are so busy watching the camera,
making sure it looks erotic on the screen, that you forget to enjoy
the time you are together. Also, members do not want to pay to see
intimacy, touching and caressing, they want to see hard core sex.
The more I thought about the adult industry, the more I thought about
professional providers, escorts. They use to be called high class call
girls, but due to the internet, the titles have changed. Today they
are called providers, pleasure providers, escorts and courtesans.
These ladies enjoy what they do, they provide a service and they seem
to really enjoy their profession. I decided I would like to provide
my sex coaching service on a one-on-one level. In person, face to face.
At first I was not sure what my husband would say.
We agreed that I would only see clients on the clock. That is, if I
meet a client that I really enjoy spending time with, I won't be going
out to dinner or seeing him unless it was on the clock and I was getting
paid. This was a very reasonable request and set a boundary that we
could both live with.
So I placed an ad in the Creative Loaf, a local alternative newspaper
in Atlanta. The response was overwhelming. I had so many calls the
first week. Unfortunately most callers were not looking for sex, love
and intimacy coaching, they were looking for a young lady to come to
their motel room for 30 or 60 minutes and please them and leave.
This was not what I had in mind. I envisioned meeting married men who
were not sexually satisfied at home. Mature men who would enjoy spending
time with a beautiful lady. Not a 19 year old bikini model, but a neighbor
next door or soccer mom look.
My first client was a young man who wanted to meet me to explore his
sexual interest. It was a wonderful experience and I found that I enjoyed
meeting clients in person as much as I enjoyed talking to them on the
phone. I decided to post an ad on Eros. This was an education in itself.
Again the response was overwhelming. I can't believe that there are
so many unhappy and sexually unfulfilled people in this world. It does
not say much for the bedroom activities in suburbia.
I quickly found that there are two kinds of clients. Hobbyist and Professional
Relationships. Hobbyist are men who enjoy seeing different ladies,
they chose their escorts like you chose a horse at the horse track.
There are several national and regional review sites. Men visit an
escort or provider, then go home and write a review of their time together.
The first reviewer has the most authority. He fills in the blanks,
like height, weight, hair color, breast size, whether or not she has
implants, if she is clean shaven or hairy. He also get the opportunity
to fill in her rates, and whether or not if she will perform certain
sexual acts. This of course is all legally protected by a disclaimer
that everything written by clients about escorts is for entertainment
purposes only.
Most escorts are either independent or work for an agency. I was most
definitely going to work for myself. I build my website and decided
to take a different approach to the business. After reading several
reviews on the review sites, I was not interested in seeing Hobbyist.
I was looking for a more intimate experience, one where my clients
would view me as a surrogate wife, instead of a rental of the female
anatomy.
Most of the reviews were good, but they were degrading to the women.
It walked you through their encounter step by step with terms like
cowgirl, reverse cowgirl and mish. Then it described what services
she provides, or how far she will go to please a client. Like performed
BBTC, which means she performs a blow job until the client climaxes.
This reminded me of a cattle auction. Men bidding on a side of beef.
This took away from the experience, the enjoyment. I realize if a man
wants to see a lady, it is convenient to know what she offers and what
she does not offer. I realize it is convenient to see how other men
felt about their experiences. Unfortunately it takes on a team sprit,
like a football mentality. Soon it is them vs. us. The hobbyist vs.
the ladies. Like everything in life, their is an exception to the rule,
but for the most part, this is how the review sites works.
I wanted to be different, I wanted to offer a classy, special service
to my clients. I felt like if a man was seriously interested in meeting
a lady who would provide a requested service, it would be worth his
time and money to get to know me I am sure not all client and escorts
click, but in life, not all people click the first time they meet.
I started to see my clients, some new and some repeat. My clients usually
e mail me between appointments to let me know how they are doing and
share a short story or experience with me. I have become friends with
many of my clients.
I find the key to being a sex coach is balance. I have a wonderful
family, I have many wonderful clients and I still have time to enjoy
all that life has to offer.
Seeing me is uniquely different than seeing most of the ladies who
advertise on the review boards. I do not offer late night out-calls,
I do not offer 30 minute sessions, I do not promote my body or my any
one part of my body. I promote the total package. Seeing me is like
spending time with your neighbors wife while her husband is at work.
If this is something that you might be interested in, please e mail
me at Julie@JulieWIld.com and introduce yourself.
For my saftely and yours, I do require screening. So if you are not
comfortable telling me who you are and what you do, please enjoy my
web site, maybe schedule a phone session with me, but please don't
request an appointment. I only meet clients once I am comfortable that
they do not have a hidden agenda. I keep all my contacts and information
extremely confidential. I do not keep cell phone numbers for future
use. I am a mature, professional person with a high regard for safety,
security and confidentiality.
If you would like to meet me before scheduling an in person appointment,
feel free to check my site, The Julie Show.com for future live appearances
at local swing clubs.
So I hope you learned a little about me and the way the escort business,
also known as the hobby works. If you have a question for me, please
feel free to e mail me at Julie@JulieWIld.com and I will reply.
I am often asked why I do not post real pictures on my website. I
believe sexuality and intimacy is all about fantasy. It is more about
what the brain thinks and the heart feels than the human anatomy of
the person. I try to give my site that fantasy feeling with my drawings.
For those readers who need to see actual photos, I have posted a few
here. No, I do not post pictures showing my face on my site, but my
drawings look very similar to my actual pictures.
